Porn Addiction, Is it in YOUR Church?

Porn addiction, or even occasional use , is rampant in our hyper-sexualized society. Sadly, research shows that our churches are not immune. In fact, the usage of porn is nearly identical in churches as it is in the culture at large.

Think I’m exagerating?

Look at this:

I recently interviewed David Byron for my podcast, “3 Steps to Wholeness”.

He is a volunteer for the Nathan, an organization that provides tools to those who wish to eliminate this from their lives.

To get this information into the hands of YOUR church, just contact me.
Paul Silva, Founder and Mentor
Cell – 518-232-0861

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Missed your invitation?

I have exciting news!

If you are reading this you have been supportive of my efforts. You also know I’ve been working on an internet based discipleship course called “3 Steps to Wholeness”.
Here’s the news, the beta launch to friends and family is going on right now.

If you didn’t get your invitation to opt-in for the emails that proceed the course it’s because I didn’t have your address. I don’t want to spam anybody, so to get the emails you need to go to this page…

Don’t worry, there is no commitment on your part. You can un-subscibe anytime.
The purpose is to get the bugs worked out before I go public with the course.

So go ahead. Opt-in and you’ll immediately get a free PDF called, “Get Your Prayers Heard”. (By yours truly)

I really look forward to hearing what you think.

Thanks, in advance. Paul

Are you a convert, or a disciple?


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There’s a big difference between a “mere” convert and a disciple.

I should first say that there is no condemnation, or even condescension, meant by what follows.

This important distinction came alive for me by reading, DiscipleShift , a book by Robert Coleman.

You might want to get a hard copy, but I used the Audible version. Here’s my brief summary of this point.

A convert has changed his mind to accept Jesus as his personal savior. Sadly, that’s often as far as it goes. Mental ascent is only the start to having an intimate relationship with Jesus.

I was there for a long time. Perhaps because the path to my conversion was primarily by logic and reason. I simply could no longer resist the preponderance of evidence.

The often quoted bit of “Christian-speak” we hear is that the longest trip is from your head to your heart. Certainly was true for me. I stayed stuck for about 20 years.

The shift from being a Christian by way of conversion only, to discipleship is huge.

Think of a disciple as one who has seen fit to submit his own will for that of the Lord. Think of Jesus in the garden of Gethsemane. Remember Paul saying without love, we are only clanging symbols.

Love starts with a decision, but grows into an attitude of heart. The life your were meant to enjoy in Christ can not be had through mere mental ascent.

Breaking through does not have to take decades. If you feel stuck in a place that is less than the full privilege of being an heir to Christ, please contact me.

I’ve discovered how to help people get unstuck in just 9 weeks.

Feel free to call me at 518-232-0861.
Or email me at

We’ll have a chat about where you want to grow to become, and how to get there.

Murder and Riots

What follows is not a political position statement. Ready for a completely different perspective of current events?

Obviously, no right-minded person is happy about what is going on right now.

The different perspective I bring is that it highlights how people react. It got me thinking about people who take an event like this from the mindset of “an activist”.

I don’t mean rioters, but people who want to help the situation. It highlights something I learned from a book called “Sacred Pathways”, by Gary Thomas.

The premise is that there are more ways to worship than just in church. Some folks are predisposed to serve Christ by addressing social injustice. Those who are moved to take action by helping, not adding to the problem, are to be commended.

Just remember the example we are given by Jesus is motivated by love, not hate.

Remember Praying for Revival?

Depending on where you went to church, you may remember when praying for Revival was commonplace.

If you are a church history buff, you know about some revivals that were awesome. It seems they all had one thing in common. They started with a small group of people praying fervently.

If this topic is unfamiliar, just google it. Or look up Azusa Street.

Today’s post asks a different question…

“Do you desire a “personal revival?”

A symptom may be just a feeling that your walk with Christ isn’t what you remember it was like at first.

Personal revivals also start with prayer.

I’ve produced an easy to consume slide deck called, Getting your prayers heard. It is free for the asking. Just let me know where to send it by asking in comments.

God bless, and look forward to a closer, more vibrant relationship with Christ.

P.S. – May I suggest you follow this blog?

Want to leave me a voicemail?

If I want to leave somebody a message, I don’t want to fill in a form. I want to leave a voicemail. Call me old school, it’s just easier.

My last post mentioned I found a piece of software to make it easier for people to contact me. I was challenged by having to embed the code. Finally gave in and hired help.

Victory! (Well partially) It is up and running, but only on my web-pages. Even the pro couldn’t get it on my email. The 3 Steps to Wholeness pages all have it.

If you follow this blog, you probably have the various pages. Maybe you should follow this blog?

Many of you will be getting a “Launch” announcement soon for the #3 Steps to Wholeness” discipleship course.

Have a Question or Comment?

I just found some software that lets people leave a voicemail on a website.

Don’t you just hate having to fill in a form, then hope somebody gets back to you? So keep an eye out for a button on this site.

I’m trying to embed the code now. But that is certainly not my strong suit.

Hope to hear from you.